Seeking happily ever after...

Is there such a thing as happily ever after? Or is it that we are never happy with what we have. We always want more. More things. More money. More sex. More love. More, more, more.. When do we finally have enough?


When WE believe we do. When WE finally realize that it really doesn't matter if I have more or less than The Jones'. And chances are The Jones' really AREN'T worried about what I have or don't have.


There's a saying.. "We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do." Honestly folks.. your family, your neighbors, friends, acquaintances? They really aren't spending countless hours thinking about you and your issues. I know I'm not. I have enough of my own issues to worry about. You're on your own figuring out the solutions to yours.


So I'm going to worry less about what people think of me and more about what I think. I have to "fix me" before I can hope to figure out what steps to take in my marriage. And the only opinion, right now, at this moment, that I need to consider is my own. Not that I'm not open to constructive advice and criticism. I'll listen. Carefully. And then I'll decide whether to take it or not.

I've spent so many years ALWAYS worried about what other people think. It was probably the single biggest factor in every decision I've ever made. But to be perfectly honest with you I really DON'T care what anyone else thinks. I just thought I was supposed too care. So I did. To the extreme.

I'm not saying I should do whatever I want whenever I want no matter who may get hurt along the way. That's just cruel and sadistic. I am saying, that if something is best for me, REALLY best for me, it won't cause someone undue harm along the way. In the long run it will all work out.

At least that's what they keep telling me. I have my doubts. But I'm trying to keep an open mind here.